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mostpeople
mostpeopleoverwhelmingmajorityofpeoplethinkthattheywantneedandwantmoreselfdiscipline
andbelievethattheydonthaveenoughandmostjustaboutallpeoplecannotgetanymoreselfdiscipline
naturegetsit
sothatsthebadnews
thegoodnews
itsactuallynotthatimportant
norforneitherforsuccess
norforhappiness
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thatyoucurrentlyhavehowifyouchangeyourfocusfromrelyingonselfdisciplineforbringingaboutchangetointroducingritualschangingyourfocusfromselfdisciplinetorituals
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whereweneedtostop
tryingtogetmoreselfdiscipline
becausethatinendofofitselfnotnotenoughforsuccess
forwellbeingforchange
anditsbecausepeoplerelyonselfdisciplineforchange
thatsthereasonofmymostorganiztionalaswellasindividualchange
effortsfailanotherquestionforyou
howmanypeopleherehavethoseofyou
whodidsetnewyearsresolutions
putyourhandup
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thatyoueversetforyourselfputyourhandup
everysinglenewarsresolutions
ifyoudidsetnewyearsresolutions
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howmanypeopleheretheresanimportantquestionsonpleaseputyourhandup
if
iftheanswerisintheaffirmative
howmanypeopleherebrushtheirteeth
thismorningputyourhandup
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whathappenedthismorning
thisscenario
so
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andthenyousetyourselfokay
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todaysthedayimgoingtodoit
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thismorning
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andyoubrushyourteeth
right
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becauseihavefifteenorfourimgoingtobrushmyteeth
yes no
ofcourse
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youknowbarelyaliveyou
youprobablygoingtorememberthatyoubrushyourteeth
becauseyouwereasleeepstillnow
why
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thismorning
whereisnoandnoonepersonoutofmorethansixhundredstudentsfulfilltheirnewyearsresolutions
whybecausenewyearsresolutionsrelyonselfdiscipline
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weknowbrushingourtityisimportant
people
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ifwedont
butwealsoknowthatphysicalexerciseisveryimportant
andyetmostpeopleintheworldnotatharvard
butintheworlddontdophysicalexerciseandpayaveryhighpriceforit
no
itonlyamazedme
whenpeopleusedtocommentonmyincredibleselfdiscipline
wheniwasasquashplayer
italwaysusedtoamazingme
becauseidontseemyselfasapersonwithselfdiscipline
youknowthatwedonthavechocolatechipcookiesathome
andifwedo
tellmehidesthem
becauseiftheywerethere
theretheywoulddisappeartwominuteslaterzeroselfdiscipline
whenitcomestothesethings
andyetwithsquash
ididhavewhatpeoplethought
andwhatifoundfromtenyears
selfdiscipline
becauseiwas
iwouldgetupinthemorning
andgoformyrun
iwouldthengoschool
schoolafterschool
straighttothecourts
haveasessionwithmycoach
regularsessionwithmycoach
thenplaygamesmatches
andthenasyoucanseeonetothegymandworkedouteverysingleday
itwas
andtheniwenthome
didmyhomework
andwenttoobed
itwasirritual
thatiswhatathletetodotheyhaverituals
whichiswhytheyabletomaintain
whatsscenfromfromtheoutsidesuchhighlevelsofdiscipline
atimesuperhuman
itsnotitsrituals
