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happychinesenewyear
everyoneweregoingtokickoffthisyearuhwithadeepdiveintotheworldofrituals
ritualsyousentoveratononymaterial
ididresearchpapers
articlesevenawholechaptertitledyougetoutofit
whatyouputintoityeah
colormeintrigueditseemslikeyourereadytouncoverthoselittlethingswedoyeah
anddaydayoutexact
sowhereshouldwebeginthatchaptertitlereallycallmyeye
whatitallstartswiththisideathateffortisdirectlytiedtovalueok
wetendtoplacemorevalueonthingsweveinvestedeffortinokay
eveniftheendresultisntperfect
okay
ithinkigetthatimean
idefinitelyfeltasenseofpriderightafterfinishingADIYproject
youifitlookalittlemonkey
yeah
buthowdoesthatrelatetorituals
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thinkaboutitthiswayritualsbytheirverynatureofteninvolveacertaindegreeofeffort
whetheritstheprecisestepsofateaceremonywasadedicationrequiredfordailymeditationpracticethateffort
thatinvestmentstrengthenareconnectiontotheritual
andmakesitmoremeaningful
soitslikewereearningtherewardoftheritualthroughoureffort
exactlyitsfascinatinghowourbrainsarewiredthiswayyeah
theresactuallyatermforthisphenomenonviakiaeffectkeeffectwasthatallaboutresearchersfoundthatpeopleactuallyvalueyetfurniture
uretheyassembthemmvesveshihighlypreassembmbpropieokayaythough
thoughtheyreobjectivelythethingsrighttheeffortweputinincreasestheperceivedvalueokaythatmakesenseocandefinitelyrelatetothatfeelingofaccomplishmentafterconcongeringthekiiassemblyprojectright
butitsstillprettyfundytothinkthinkyeah
ithighlightstsalmostmostrarationalweatatachachvaluetothingsokay
rememberthiscakemixesinthenineteenfifteen
fiftiescakemixes
nocantsayidowellinitiallythesemixesweredesignedforultimateconveniencejustaddwaterandbakeokay
butsalesweresurprisinglylow
reallyitturnedoutthatpeopledidntfeelinvesininthecake
becausetheyrentputtinginanyeffort
soortdotheydotheytweptherecit
theyrequireaddinganegg
okitseemslikeasmallchange
right yeah
butcrackingthateggandincorporatingitahgavepeopleasenseofparticipationofeffort
andsuddenlythecakewasmorevaluable
therewastheircreation
wow
thatsabrilliantmarketingstrategy
whoknewcrackingkingegcouldhavesuchapsychologicalimpact
itsaperfectexampleofhowevensmallactsofeffortsrightandchangeourperceptionofvalue
right
butsowedirecrectlyhowweexperiencerruuokaysowerestartingtoseehoweffortenhanancesthevalueandmeaningofrituals
right
buthowdowedifferentiatebetweenritualsandhabitsright
theyseemprettysimilaronthesurface
theresagreatquestionandrerighttheresdefinitelysomeoverlap
yeah
butheresthekeydifferencehabits
automtomwhilerituals
enemyokay
imhabitsaboutefficiency
streamliningoractions
butifrichwallsenfusethoseactionswithintention
symbolismandhaaning
okay
sobrushingITtwiceadaysahabit
right
butifihavetouseaspecificmugformymorningcoffeeuhh
wheresthewholedayfeelsoff
yeah
thatsarichwall
exactlyitsnotabouttheactionitself
butthemeaningweattachedtoitrightifachangeinthesequenceorthetoolsinvolvedfeelswrong
yeah
canesareyouvestumbleduponaritualyoureright
ithinkihavewaymoreritualsthaneveryrealizedmostofusdoarerituals
aresneakerthanwethinkyeah
influencingeverythingfromourmorningroutinestohowwecelebrateholidays
speakingofroutines
iwasreadingaboutraphelaladullspresserveritual
yeah
thatalmostlikeacarefullycorreagreatafterdance
tomakeallthosespecificmovementsandadjustments
youjustfascinatingisntit
yeah
hemuticulouslywipeshisface
yeah
adjustshortsbouncesthebballapresesenumberoftime
yeah
somemightdismissitasuperstition
butithinktheressomethingmoreprofound
goingonokimcuriousous
doyouthinkisgoingonothinkthoseritualshelpingthedoll
managetheimmensepressureofcompetition
okayhittingatennisball
withthatlevelofpowerandaccuracy
umrequiresincrediblefocustheritualhelpshimcreateasenseofcontrolinahighstakes
unpredictablesituation
doyouthinkitspurelypsychological
thatsagoodquestionorcouldthosespecificmovements
alsohaveaphysicalbenefititsprobablyaccombinationofbothokphysicallythoseactionsmighthelphimwarmuphismusclesandfindhisrhythmright
butthepsychologicalimpactisundeniable
yeah
itsaboutgettingintothezone
comingthenervesandfocusingasenergyrightalmostlikehescreatingamentalsafespace
throughthoserituals
yeah
speakingofmentalstates
thiswholeideaofritualsstestemmingfromaneedforcontrolrightremindsmeofthoseexperimentswiththoserituals
pigeonsuh
yes
thepigeonswhodevelopedsuperstitiousbehaviors
yeah
byassociatingrandomactionswithrewardwhatsfascinatinghereisthatevenpigeonswiththeirrelativelysimplebrains
yeah
seemtocveasenseoforderandpredictility
oyeahtheyinventedrituals
alstosensenseofwhatwasthem
themarandomworld
soinpigeonsneedtheirititalsright
butseriouslyitseemslikewerehardwiredforthis
yeah
thisdesiretoimposeorderandmeaningonourexperiences
yes
somewaslikeafundamentalhumanneedexactly
andritualsprovideararameworkformeeting
thatneed
whetherwereservingatennisball
navigatingacomplexsocialinteraction
orsimplytryingtogetthroughtheday
andthatneedforritualsseemstotransscendcultures
andevenspeciesitsacommonthread
thatbudsustogether
absolutely
itslikeweallsearchingforthoselittleanchorsofmeaningincontrol
yeah
inthischaaticworld
yeah
speakingofanchorsisonitritualsalwayshavetobethesebigformalthingsrightthey
theyalsobesmallandpersonal
absolutely
infact
someofthemostpowerfulritualsaretheoneswecreateforourselvesthoselittledailypractices
thatbringusajoypeaceorasenseofgrounding
okthatmakesenseoah
sowhataresomeexamplesofthesesmallerpersonalrituals
thinkaboutyourmorningroutineokay
doyouhaveaspecificway
youmakeyourcoffeeortea
ormaybeyouliketostartyourdaywithafewminutesofmeditationorstrechingyektheseseeminglysmallactionscanbecomepowerfulrituals
ifyouimbuethemwithintentionandmeaningivedefinitelynoticedthatifidonthavemymorningcoffee
ritualthewholedayfeelsofflikelikemybrainneedsthatsignaltoswitchintoawakemodeexactly
anditsnotjustaboutthecafeinitsabouttherichwillitselfthefamiliarsequenceofactionsthathelpsyoutransitionintothetions
sohowcanwebemoreintentionalaboutcreatatingthesesmallererritulsinourlives
itstartswithpayingattentiontowhatalreadyfeelsmeaningfultookay
whatarethoselittlethingsyoudo
thatbringyouasenseofcommfocusorjoy
maybeitstakingawalkinnaturelisteningtoyourfavoritemusicorspendingafewminutesjournalbeforebedokay
onceyouveidentifiythoseactivities
yeahyoucanstarttoformalizethemintoritualsbyaddingabitmorestructureandintention
soinsteadofjustpassivelylisteningtomusic
rightimightcreateaspecificplayersforrelaxationandlikeacanddlewhileilisten
exactlyitsaboutellegatingthoseeverydayactionsintosomethingmoremindfulanddeliberateok
andyoucanevencreateritualsaroundthingsyouneedtodo
butdontnecessarilyenjoylikeexererisingyouredoingshoresokthatsinteresting
sohowwouldyouturnsomethinglikecleaningthehouseintoaritualwellinsteadofviewingitasachore
right
youcouldapproachitasanactiveselfcareorawaytocreateamorepeacefulenvironment
rightmaybeyoulikeasentitcandle
putonsomeupbeatmusicandsetatimerfortwentyminutesoffocus
cleaningokaythekeyistoshiftyourmindsetfromdredurytointentionality
ilovethatitsaboutfindingthoselittlewaystoinfuseeventhemundanemeaningandpurposeprecisely
andthosesmallerrituals
ithavearippleeffectonouroverallwellwell
andtheycanhelpusmenandstress
boostourmoodandfeelmoreconnectedtoourselvesinoursurroundings
itseemslikeritualswereallaboutcreatingthosemomentsofpauseandintentionalitybeinginothwiseseheticticlife
yeah
itssslowinginreallysaveringthosesmallpleasuresexactlyandspeakingofsaveringyeah
imremindedofthescannavianconceptoffikaKAdailyritualoftakingabreakforcoffeeinpastries
itsnotjustaboutconsumingcaffeineandsugarrightitsaboutcreatingasocialspace
apauinthedayforconnectionandenjoymentthatsoundslovely
wecouldallusealittlemorefiakainourlives
absolutely
是的 是的
andithighlightsthefactthatritualsdonthavetobesolitariandeavorsorstheycanbepowerfultoolsforstrengtheningrelationshipsandbuildingcommunityandmakesenseright
wevealreadyreadytalkedabouthowritualscanhelpindividualsfeelmoregroundedinincontrolright
buthowdotheyplayoutinthecontextofrelationships
wellevensmalleveryday
ritualscanhelpcouplestayconnectedandfeelmoreinsinccok
thinkaboutthoselittlethingsyoudotogether
maybeitsmakingcoffeeforeachotherinthemorningright
takingawalkafterdinner
rightahhaveinaweeklymovienight
ilovethoseexamples
itsnotabouttheactivity
itselfitsaboutthesharedexperience
yeah
theconsistencyandtheunspokenlanguagethatdevelopsaroundtheseritualsexactlyanditsnotjustromanticrelationships
rightthinkaboutfamilytraditionslikehavingaspecialmealeverysundaynight
itorgoingoninannualcampingtripright
rritalscrecreateasensebelongingandsharedhistory
itslikethoseritualsbecomeapartofyourfamilysidentity
athreatthatconnectseeacrossgenerationationsok
itsreallyreallybeautiful
youthinkaboutit
itis
andritualscanalsobeincrediblyhelpful
duringtimesoftransitionorchange
changeokay
thinkaboutrightsofpassathosececemonmonalsandtraditionsthatmakesignificantlifeeventsokaylikegraduationsweddings
andevenfuneralsrightsofpassagearelikesocietalsigmpostsmarkingthosebigtransitionsinlive
yeahtheyhopeusprocesschangeandfindourplaceintheworld
buthowdotheyactuallyhelpusnavigatethosechanges
welltheyprovideastructureforacknowledgingandhonoringthosetransitionsok
thinkaboutagraduationceremony
itsnotjustaboutgettingadiploma
right
itsaboutpubliclyacknowledgingtheendofonechapterinthebeginningofanother
itsawaytosaygoodbyetothepastandembracethefuture
andthoseritualsofteninvolvesymbolicactionslikethwingyourcapintheairorwwgingacrossthestagethoseactionsgivethoseabstractconceptsofchangeintransitionattimeformexactly
andthosesymbolicactionscanbeincrediblypowerful
yeahtheyhappenintoouremotionsandcreatelastingmemories
rightthinkabouttheritualofexchangingringsduringaweddingceremony
thoseringsbecomeaphysicalrepresentationofthecouplescommitmenttoeachotherandeveninsaturtimestimeslikefuneralsritualscanhelpusprocessgriefandfindcomfortandsharedtraditions
absolutelymorningrituals
whetheritswearingblacksharingstoriesaboutthedeceasedyeorhavingvingwakerightprovideacontainerforgrief
itallowustoexpressourgrisiandandfindsoliaceandcommunity
itseemslikeritualsarethereforusateverystageoflife
helpingusmarkthosetransitionsbookbigtheyare
andtheyrenotjustabouttheindividual
theyreaboutconnectingustosomethinglargerthanourselvesgothereitsourfamilies
ourcommunities
ourspirituality
rightorevenjusttherhythmofnature
okayweveughtalotaboutthepositiveaspectsofrituals
butimalsocuriousaboutthepotentialdownsidessurearetheretimeswhenritualscanbeharmfulorevendangerous
thatsanimportantquestion
thatstheanswers
yes
ritualscandefinitelyhaveadarkside
okwevealreadytouchedonhowthey
theycanbeusedtoreforforcenegativesocialnormsorcreateasenseofusverssright
buttheycanalsobecomeproblematiconapersonallevel
iftheybecometorigidobsessiveorinterferewithdailylife
canyougiveussomeexamplesofhowritualscangowrongsure
thinkaboutsomeonewithobsessivecompulsivedisorder
oh CDokay
theymightdevelopritualslikeexcessivehandwashingrightorrepeatedlycheckinglocks
okaytheseritualsareoftendrivenbuyingideideandfear
andtheycanconsumeasignificantamountoftimeandenergy
rightpreventingthepersonfromlivingafullandmeaningfullife
soitsliketheritualbecomesaprisonratherthanasourceofcomfortercontrol
exactly
anditsimportanttorememberthatritualsshouldenhanceourlivesnotcontrolthemright
ifyoufindyourselffeelingtrappedorburdenedbyaritual
itmightbetimetoreevaluateitsroleinyourlife
是的 对的
thatsareallyimportantpoint
anditmakesmewonder
howdowefindthatbalancebetweenhonouringtradition
andmakingsureourritualsarestillservinguswellitstartswithbeingmdfullofourintentions
soitsaboutweengaginginthisritualright
whatpurposedoesitserve
andisweengalilinewithourvaluesinourcurrentneeds
soitsaboutregularlycheckinginwithourselves
andmakingsureourritualsarestillbringingusjoyconnection
orwhateveriswereseekingexactly
ritualsshouldntbestaticorunchangingright
theycanandshootevolveaswedoitsokaytoletsgoofrituals
thatnolongerserviceortoadaptthemtofitourchangingneedsandvalues
thatseliberatingthoughtitmeanswehavethepowertoshapeourritualsandmakethemworkforus
yeah
ratherthantheotherwayaroundexactly
andthatflexibilityiskeytoharnessingthetruepowerofrituals
itsamazing
howritualscanbeaancientandconstantlyevolving
shapingandreshapingthemselvestofitourneedsinourtimes
yeahmakesyouwonder
howtheyareadaptingintodaysworld
especially
withariseoftechnologyarewecreatingnewdigitalrituals
itsfascinatingisntittechnologyisdefinitelyimpactinghowweexperienceandcreateritualsononehand
itsdisruptingsometraditionalritualslikefamilydinnersaswebecomemoretetheredtoourdevices
butitsalsoopeningupnewpossibilitiesforconnectioninritualbuilding
thatsagoodpoint
yeah
itseasytofocusonthenegative
yeah
buttherearedefinitelynewritualsemerginginthedigitalspace
absolutely
imeansocialmediaispracticallybuiltonrituals
likingkingsharingcommentingitshowweinteractandconnectonline
exactlythinkaboutthosebirthdaywishes
floodingyourfacebookwallrightortheritualofpostingvacationphotosoninstagram
yeah
thesearedigitalritualsthatservesimilarfunctionstoatraditionalones
theyreinforcesocialbonds
markmilestonesandallowustoexpressourselves
itslikeweretranslatingthoseancienthumanimpulsesforritualandconnectionintothedigitalrealmright
anditsnotjustsocialmediaivenoticedallsortsoflittleritualsformingaroundourdevices
oh
absolutely
thewaywecheckourphones
firstthinginthemorning
thewaywechargethematnight
yeah
eventhespecificwayweholdthem
theseareallmicrrritualsthathavebecomeinggrainedinourdailylives
itsincrediblehowquicklyweadaptandcreatenewrituals
evenaroundsomethingisseeminglymundaneisasmartphoneright
itreallyhighlightsthatdeepseatedhumanneedforstructureandpredicabilityevenintheeverchangingworldoftechnology
yeah
butdoyouthinkthesedigitalritualscantrulyreplaceaboutthinkdiacetofaceinteractionsthatformthefoundtionsofsomanytraditionalrituals
thatsthemilliondollarquestion
ithinkdigitalritualscandefinitelyenhanceinsupplementsourrealworldconnectionsokay
buttheressomethingirreplacableaboutthosesharedphysicalexperience
likelikethinkabout
abouttheritualsurroundingfood
preparingamealtogethergatheringaroundatable
sharingstoriesandlaughter
yeah
technologycanfacilitythoseconnections
butitcantfullyreplicatetherichnessofofthosepersonthatexperiencesyourerighttheresacertainmagicthathappenswhenwegatherinperson
asenseofpresentandconnection
thatshardtoreplicateonline
exactlyitsthatspsparkofenergypassesbetweenpeople
whentheyrephysicallypresentinthesamespace
soitseemslikefindingthatbalanceceskeyumembracingthepossibilitiesoftechnology
whilealsomakingsurewedontlooksightoftheimportanceofthosefacetofaceconnections
absolutelyweneedtobemindfulofhowwereusingtechnologyright
andmakesureitsenhancingourves
vesourrelationshipsnothinderingthem
thisisbeensuchaneyeopeningconversation
ithasbeenfuineweveexplorethepsychologyofrituals
yeah
theirroleinourpersonalandsociallives
andevenhowtheyreadaptinginthedigitalage
yeah
whatdoyouthinkofthemostimportanttakeawaysforourlisteners
whyhopethisdeepdivehashighlightedthesheerpervasivenessofritualsinourlives
thetheyrenotaboutformalceremoniessareliousouspractices
theyrenotvenintothefabricofoureverydayexperiencesshapinghowwework
howweconnecttoothers
andhowwemakesenseoftheworld
yeah
andihopelistenersfeelempowertocreatetheirownrituals
thoughsmallintentionalpractices
thatbringmorejoeconnectionormeaningtotheirlives
ivethatritualsdonthavetobegrandorcomplicatedright
itsaboutfindingthoselittleanchorsofintentionalitythatinrichourdailyexperienencesexactlyandrememberritualscanevolveitsoktoletgoofthosethatnolongerserveyouortoadaptthem
tofityourchangingneedsrightwhatmattersisfindingwhatresonateswithyou
andbringsasenseofpurposeandconnectiontoyourlife
wellsaid
oh
andaswewrapupourdeepdiveintothefascinatingworldofrituals
ijustwanttowisheveryone
ihappychinesenewyear
onceagain
maythisyearbefilledwithmeaningfulrituals
joyfulconnections
andareanewsenseofpurpose
happynewyear
andmayallyourrituals
botholdannualbringasenseofpeace
joyandconnectionandbeautifullysaid
tilnexttimekeepdivingdeepstakeuriousandhappyritualmakingeveryone
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