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Hi
I'm here to talk you about the importance of praise admiration thank you and having a be specific and genuine
And the way i got interested in this
Was i noticed in mywhen i was growing up and til about a few years ago
That i would want to say thank you to someone
I would want to praise
And i'd want to taken their praise of me
And i just stop it
And i asked myself why i felt shy
Felt embarrassed
And that my question became ami the only one who does as de decide investigate unfortunate enough to work in the rehahave facility
So i get to see people who are facing life and death with addiction
And sometimes it comes down to something as simple as their core wound is their father died without
Without ever saying who's proud of them
But then they hear from all the family and friends
That the father told everybody else
That he was proud of him
But he never told the son
It's because he didn't know that his son needed to hear it
So my question is why don't we ask for the things that we need um
I know what done on the mary for his five years
Who's llning to hear his wife say thank you for being the bread winners
Like it stay home with the kids
But won't ask
I know woman who's good at this
She once a week me with her husbandsses
I would like you to thank me for all these things
I did in the house and with the kids
And he goes
And he goes what this is great
This is great
And praise really does have to be genuine
But she takes responsibility for that in the friend of my april who i've had since kindergarten
She thanks her children for doing their chores
And she said why wouldn't think it
Even though the're supposed to do it
So the question is why was i blocking it
Why were other people blocking it
Why can i say i'll take my stake medium
Where i need side sick shoes
But i won't say would you praise me this way
And it's because i'm giving you critical data about me
I'm telling you where i'm insecure
I'm telling you where i need your help
And i'm treating you my inner circle like you're the enemy
Because what can you do with that data
You couldn't neglect
You could abuse it
Or you can actually meet my need
And i took my bike into the bike store
I love this same bike
And they do something called chewing the wheels
The guys said
You know when you chew the wheel
It's going to make the bike so much better i get the same bike back
And they've taken all the little warbs out of those same wheeli've ve had rtwo and and half iyears and my bike is like new
So i'm going to challenge all of you
I want you to true your wheel be honest about the praise
That you need to hear
What do you need to hear go home to your wife go ask her
What is she need to go home
Your husband
What is he need
嗯嗯go home
And ask those quesquestions
Then help the people around you
And it's simple
Why and why
Why we ccare about this taltalk world piace ce can we have world peace with different cultures
Different languages
I think it starts household by household under the same roof
So let's make it right in our own backyard
And i want to think all of you in the audience for being great husband's great mother's friends
Daughters
Sons
And maybe somebody's never said that to and
But have done a really really good job b
Thank
Thank you
Being
Being here and showing up and changing the world with ideas
Thank you
